What is it about marriage and love that can barely exist with one another?
Is there some sort of magic recipe or a secret ingredient to work out the relationship while married?
Ages now, we hear women confessing that after the marriage, their relationship with their partner has changed.
Routine, kids, physical changes, lack of intimacy, the many years together, you name it. It’s all there, slowly unbinding the bond that you once shared with your partner.
And then one day you suddenly wake up realizing that this is your life from now on, and you can either accept the defeat or fight for the woman you once were and own her back.
Never-ending talks with your partner, trying to figure out when did you start getting the kind of couple that you were promising to never be.
The never-ending talks about fixing it and trying to find a common ground to build the chasm that was created throughout the years.
I wish to say to you that there is a magic switch that we can turn back on, and all the passion, intimacy, and endless sex would be back... but it isn’t that simple, I’m afraid.
A relationship to succeed needs work and commitment from both sides. It needs will to go the extra mile, creativity to keep the flame alive, and understanding.
Women, as far back as the Stone Age, are swamped with loads of different responsibilities once they become wives and even more so once they become mothers.
On the other hand, men work and provide, making sure all bills are paid, food is on the table, and we have a roof over our heads.
But that’s a very Palaeolithic ideal, isn't it?
Nowadays, women are wives, mothers, and providers at the same time. Society is being run by both women and men.
And yet when it comes to marriage and how to keep the intimacy alive, we somehow lose the ball in the court.
I must say, having lived in different countries, I’ve gotten a wider perspective of the topic, and to be frank, it all comes down to comfort.
You get comfortable when you are in a relationship, and don’t get me wrong by staring to say, "But why is it that bad thing to be comfortable with your partner? ‘’. It is not a bad thing—you should absolutely feel comfortable in your relationship!
But don’t start taking the other person for granted! Don’t get lazy!
As any international cuisine needs their seasoning to taste a little better, that is how we should also treat our relationship!
Some pepper for a little spiciness here and there, some salt, and a bit of sweet paprika sometimes to get the flavoring started!
It all comes down to seasoning and knowing when to put the right kind of spice.
And what’s more suited here than the old good saying ‘’ The way to someone’s heart is through the stomach’’.
So, ladies and gentlemen, let the cooking start!
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