Haven’t we all wondered at least once in our life, why do we feel so attracted to someone we cannot have?
Let’s be honest. The idea of something untouchable and forbitten, something that we supposedly shouldn’t have, makes us want it more.
But have you wondered why is that? Why we always fall for the guy or girl who are not available?
In this article we are going to dive into these very possible reasons of to why do we feel the need to go after someone unavailable.
The very first reason according to some data from a survey was conducted publicly, is that some people are simply becoming attracted to the chase game.
This feeling can become so intoxicating that they prefer the pain of unrequired love to the sacrifices involved in a real relationship.
At this point the fantasy becomes more important than its fulfilment.
On the other hand, psychologists would insist that the person is so attractive to you because their specific brand of emotional unavailability has triggered something in you.
This something is deeply connected to your past formative relationships and the fact that you don’t love the other person, but you love what they can offer you and the depth of the emotions they allow you to feel.
Another resource states that people who fall for unavailable ones, usually feel that they are more committed to the relationship than the other person is. These people most often have profound insecurities, believing that if they will eventually manage to change the other person and make them commit to their relationship will finally be ‘’worthy’’.
So, which one of the reasons above is the true one? Maybe all of them or perhaps none.
We will never really know.
The love game is very unpredictable full of surprises and overthrows.
You can never know for whom you will fall with and under which life circumstances you both will be at the time of the fall.
Is he/she in relationship? Married? With family? Recently divorced?
All the above don’t matter when it comes to love.
When you fall in love with the other person, you fall for them for their qualities, appearance and character.
So, I will advise you only one thing here.
Get out there, have fun, fall in love like there is no tomorrow.
Life is too short not to live it in its fullest!
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